The other day I bumped into my exclusive sex partner with a girl in a mall. They looked completely date vibe and he had that guilty or nervous look as soon as he saw me. He messaged me asking if it was me and I said yes and asked how his date went, and he said it was not a date and the girl is a friend from work. 

Also yesterday I ran into a guy I matched with on a dating app. We never met in person, but we exchanged Instagram so I recognized him. We chatted for a few days, then I got busy with study and stopped replying.

At the restaurant he was with a super hot girl and they were holding hands. I messaged later to confirm it was him and even complimented the girl he was with was pretty.

He said yes it was him, but that it was totally not a date or something.

I was like… hello? I literally saw you guys holding hands. I honestly don’t care if you’re dating someone — we never even met. I just don’t get why you both feel the need to lie it’s not a date. but anyway, I guess it’s none of my business in both situations.

Edit: I wish I could change my title to “why did they lie”. I didnt mean to generalize men plz don’t get me wrong. The whole point that you all criticize me for generalizing men but not answer my question “why did they lie”..

edit: the second guy later told me it was a first date and said it was hilarious I recognized him and saw him on a date and he loved that I told him.


16 comments

  2. If you messaged me just because you saw me out with a girl after you stopped replying, I would block you so fast. You might want to take a look at what you’re putting in the universe.

  3. You sound like a stupid. You aren’t exclusive yet jealous

    The other guy texted you and you didn’t care to reply. Now you see her with a girl you get jealous 😂

  4. Ah yes my two isolated experiences with men lying to me equals all men are liars. Obviously.

    First, when you start your post off with something like that statement, it kind of immediately makes some lose sympathy for whatever problem you’re facing.

    Two, if he’s lying to you or you feel like he’s lying, then just stop talking to them or block them. Easy fix.

  5. Because people don’t owe you intel on their dating life? Like excuse me? You’re acting super entitled. None of this stuff is your business.

  6. Once again, when somebody posts or comments asking, “Why does [broad demographic] think/do [this one thing]?”, my answer will be that the demographic in question is not a monolith.

    But this dude is your ex, so it doesn’t MATTER whether he was on a date, going shopping with a coworker, or meeting up with his long lost cousin! Just leave him alone and let him live his life without trying to control him. Sheesh.

  7. Well not all of them are liars so i wouldnt make a generalization like that nor feed into it but you mentioned he looked guilty/nervous, when people are guilty or nervous about something they lie. Maybe hes just ashamed of his past with you or something now that he’s interested in another. But idk being “exclusively sex partners “ with someone and then going to message them is kinda weird like it seems like you might have feelings for him. Hes like allowed to date other people if i was him i would feel like “why are you checking me on it if we aren’t like that” yk?

  10. No one lied to you. Two guys you weren’t dating went on dates with women that wanted to date them. Just because you stalk someone on Instagram doesn’t mean they owe you anything. And I’m sorry, there’s no such thing as an “exclusive sex partner” you’re just a random girl he fucks, again that doesn’t mean he owes you anything.

  11. “Exclusive sex partner” means “exclusive sex partner” and not “relationship.”

    You just told him he can use you to bust a nut and go see other girls as long as he ain’t fucking another girl.

    Literally got exactly what you asked for. Sex but no commitment.

  12. “Exclusive sex partner” is an oxymoron. You don’t think he’s relationship material yet expect committed relationship behavior from him. In what world does that make sense?

  13. Paradoxically, you are asking liars to be honest with you when you ask that question. What do you expect untrustworthy men (like me) to say? Any reason I give would (and should) be immediately doubted due to my self-admitted deceitful leaning.

  15. “Why are (a random demographic) all (insert random bad behavioral trait)?” are very lowest common denominator threads. Based on this, he probably didn’t tell you the truth because he didn’t think you were logical enough to understand it if he did.

    But serious answer, they don’t owe you a thing. You aren’t exclusive.

Leave a Reply