For the past 10 years we(my husband and kids) have had my mom, his mom and my sister living with us. His mom did the cooking and worked, my mom for the most part helped around the house with cleaning and kids minding and in the past three years has started working.
When I was 39 I said I wanted to have my nuclear family with me without our extended family living with us. I’m now almost 43 and both my mom and sister have moved out but his mom is still here.
Yesterday I found a good opportunity that will enable her to move out and make more money without having to pay rent because housing is part of the job. But she refused to take the job.
I am right now holding sooooooo much resentment for both my husband and his mom and I am considering asking him and his mom to move so I can live with my kids by myself. (An extreme overreaction but I want just us to live together so badly)
I feel like I was robbed of the freedom to raise my kids by myself without everyone else’s input. I do not feel free in my own home and everything at some point is told to others who are not in my circle. I am angry! I am upset. I am upset. I have nothing to say to my husband regarding his mom refusing the job. He keeps asking what I think about the refusal and I honestly have nothing to say to him. I am holding my tongue because I may say something mean. I am not even willing to express my contempt. I feel like the bad person for wanting only my husband and I to live together.
I don’t want this co habitation anymore. And it makes me feel like the bad person.