TLDR: Hooked up with a FWB/hookup from my past and I think I’m interested in something more this time around, not sure if she feels the same way.
Last weekend, I 26M hung out/hooked up with a former casual hookup 26F from college that had come back into my life. At the end of our junior year, I was coming out of a rough relationship & breakup and we started hooking up over the summer as we both stayed in our college town year-round. The sex was good (not great, I admittedly wasn’t the best partner to her or in general at the time) and super casual, just drunk post-bar hookups. Neither of us ever seemed to develop feelings, I’d even go as far as saying we never really got to know each other all that well. Eventually we stopped seeing each other, but we’ve loosely kept in contact after graduating and moving away as neither of us have gotten into serious relationships since then.
We’re now living in the same city again and decided to hang out. That leads us to last Saturday night. I went over to her place kind of expecting the same thing, but we ended up having a couple drinks and just talking until 4 in the morning. Again, this was the first time I really felt like I’d gotten to know her and turns out she’s great. She told me about her family, hobbies, what brings her joy in life, and I told her the same. We also talked about how shitty dating is, how we’re both the only of our siblings that are still single (and about our parents’ light concern over that), and how we’re both really picky with who we date. Then we had some truly great sex. Didn’t feel like hookup sex. I slept over and hung out with her until the early afternoon on Sunday. We walked her dog, kept talking until we went our separate ways to get things in order for the upcoming week. We both agreed in parting that we should hang out again. All in all, we spent like 18 hours together.
We’ve been texting basically non-stop ever since and talked on the phone for an hour and a half Monday night. We’ve talked about doing things in the future (me teaching her how to golf, her teaching me how to play tennis and ski, swapping recipes/cooking our favorites for each other, hanging out to do puzzles, her taking my extra ticket to a concert with my sister and her bf in a few months, etc). I have a feeling we’ll see each other again in the near future, if anything I want to see her again before I go out of town for a few days on Friday. Can’t stop thinking about her. I know the logical answer in this scenario is to see her again and feel things out, maybe talk to her about what I’m feeling if it persists. But for whatever reason I’m struggling with the idea of doing that, don’t want to be totally misreading this situation. Is this girl into me in more than a casual hookup way? Opening it up for your opinions if anyone stuck it out through this long ass post.