I [28M] have had about 8 serious partnerships. Out of them 5 have ended due to infidelity. 1 of them being not technically cheating but her ex started talking to her and "convinced" her he was a better partner than me despite the ex being totally insane. Not abusive… just like crazy.
One ended amicably when my last partner moved to a new city to pursue a dream job and I wasn't interested in following. One ended recently with a lot of confusion because I was going through depression and having a lot of social anxiety as I was moving house so I wasn't super available. One in high school ended because she just wasn't interested anymore after about 5 months.
I have had dozens probably not too far from 50 little brief flings. Mostly with women via OLD. So many have ended with going on a couple dates and then being told "I've chosen someone else" or "We're not vibing enough". And I don't mind too bad. I get it. I see multiple people at once in the first date stage. But the sheer number of people I meet who just have nothing in common with me is staggering. Like I cannot find people with any common interests to the point where I've all but given up.
I hold multiple bachelors degrees a few graduate certificates and have a high income, have a mortgage on a home, and looking for someone with a similar background. I'm into fitness, reading, concerts, like spontaneous road trips and multi player video games. I'm 5'8" and in good shape. Definitely not like body builder competition shape, but I'm more attractive than average. Feel silly saying that but my broader point is I'm not hideous and take care of myself. I dress in decent street clothes. The only people I can find via OLD are usually uneducated, working retail, enjoy hanging out in bars or smoking weed. Nothing is wrong with any of that of course, but I'd kinda like someone with their life somewhat put together more. I just cannot seem to find and match with anyone remotely like me. I feel like I'm going crazy. Many of my female friends day to day ask me how it can be that I'm single and how they're glad they have their partners, but IRL I've been cheated on 5 times in like the last 7 years. I'm constantly told that "I'm not their person" or they just "aren't feeling it".
I cannot seem to find places to meet people that like the things that I like and I feel like I'm going crazy. It feels like OLD is a wasteland.