29F, was seeing a man about my age, we went on three dates and had plans for a fourth. I texted him today to try to plan the 4th, and asked if he wanted to do something a little less effort since it would be during the week, after work. First date was drinks, second was bowling, third was Dave & Busters. He said “I don’t think we’re vibing well enough for my liking. I wish you good luck with finding someone. ✌🏾” Which was WAY off from what he’d previously said to me.
He was shy, but engaging in the conversation. I asked him a lot about himself, but he wouldn’t make eye contact for more than maybe a few seconds, and then he wouldn’t look away. I asked him afterwards if he’s shy, and he said he is, so I gave him some grace. Looking back, maybe those are just signs of him not being interested and I just didn’t understand. I’m on the spectrum so there are definitely things that fly over my head, socially, and I’ll take the responsibility on this one. Idk man, we had a lot in common, and I just don’t understand the sudden shift. I mean, I really thought we vibed. I fooled myself lol but I just don’t know where to go from here. Clearly, I don’t know how to properly date at nearly 30 and it fucking sucks, man.
ETA: I’ve never been in a relationship and this was my first time actually going on a date with a man.