Hi, I’m a SAHM and my husband works as A pilot, often away on layover. We have a six year old and a three month old. Because I quit my full time job to raise the kids (he really wanted this) I do most of the childcare, housework, cleaning, invisible labour, etc. I’m also breastfeeding our three month old, so do all night wakings.
Sex is imprtant to both of us to feel connected in the relationship, but he has a higher sex drive than I do. We currently have sex about once or twice a week. Today he told me he needs more sex (or sexual acts) and says he finds it hard to be nice to me or show he cares about me when he’s not regularly getting sex.
I imagine sex once a week with a young kid and baby is pretty good. But I’m also hurt that he ties his ability to be kind to me to my sexual output. I’m exhauated most days and don’t take time for myself, and him demanding more / saying he can’t be kind to me otherwise is stressful and heartbreaking. I feel like it’s unfair and unrealistic. Am I overthinking it? How do you manage it all and find time for more sex?