So this weekend my daughter (15f) had a friend over also (15f). On Sunday, my wife(daughter’s stepmother)(37f)told them she wasn’t going to cook breakfast, but they could make something for themselves if they wanted. They did — and they also made breakfast for me since I was sick.
This really upset my wife. Now she’s saying she wants a divorce and that it’s either her or my daughter.
I spoke to my daughter about it, and she said she misunderstood. She thought when my wife told them to make their own breakfast, it meant she had already eaten, so she didn’t think to ask if she wanted any. I can understand how not asking might have come across as rude, but asking for a divorce or wanting my daughter out of the house over what seems like a simple misunderstanding feels extreme.
Is that kind of reaction rational?
edit to add details:
we have been married for under 4 years together for 6.
my wife hasn’t liked my daughter since she found out I wasn’t her biological father she is my exes biological daughter and I raised her as my own.
my daughter can sometimes appear to be ungrateful and my wife has said this is the third time in six years that she hasn’t offered to make her food when she’s made other people food. My daughter also has missed a lot of school this year and has a C average in school which my wife has a problem with.