Me 47M and my wife 45F have been together for 18 years no kids.
After many years of being off the table BJ came back only after we had few serious discussion about my frustration in the amount of being intimate which has been for the last years once a week over the week end. I always give her oral during foreplay but she never reciprocate orally. i did offer to have couple therapy but she refused saying that we can sort it ourselves but i insisted without success and then started therapy myself.
After I started seeing my psicologist i have noticed that she changed a bit, and agreed to give me bjs only during shower and with a flavoured condom on. While i really like to see my wife doing it as it feels exotic I do still have the feeling this is not really spontaneus and that she just do it to please me without liking it much. What should i do? Just enjoy what I havenow after many years of not feeling that expwrience or ask if she is not liking at all to not do it?