So i (25f) have known this guy (24m) for about 2 years now. I was casually dating someone he knew through work (both music artists) so we were around eachother a lot. We had a lot of sexual tension and nothing ever happened. We ended up being in the same city for a few days about 2 weeks ago. He messaged me asking to get together, we got drinks, got drunk, and ended up hooking up. The chemistry was so good while we were kissing. We were bantering all night and sort of obsessing over eachother. I swear to god – I am not one to say chemistry was there when it wasn’t. I very seldom have chemistry with people.
So anyways, when we were hooking up it was great, but he kept drinking as we were having sex so he wasn’t able to finish I think? We eventually stopped and just kept kissing and making out for awhile and out of nowhere he was like “did I do something wrong?” And I assumed he meant not being able to finish, so of course I said absolutely not, this great, blah blah blah. He wanted me to spend the night with him and I didn’t because I wanted to go home and get some sleep. We tried to hang out a few more times before he left the city but it didn’t end up working out because of scheduling stuff.
Anyways, he asked if I would come visit him where he lives and I said of course but it may be awhile because I don’t have my passport. Then he said “do me a favor and make it sooner than later.” After that, he pretty much ghosted me.
I seriously don’t know what the fuck just happened lol and I actually really liked him and unfortunately got attached after being so intimate. I asked him about a week ago why he stopped texting back, and he only said “I’m confused.” I further elaborated and he said “I had a great time with you and want to see you again.” To which is said, okay when? And he never replied. I’m honestly kind of losing my mind over this for some odd reason – I can’t really tell if I’m just being an idiot who is being strung along after a one night stand, or if I’m being ridiculous with expecting to him to have more enthusiasm to see me again? I should probably just stop making an effort and move on.. I guess I’m just hoping for some type of explanation to this behavior.