This isn’t about how I should feel but how would youuuu feel? This is my first relationship and her 2nd. Early on when we were first talking it was so easy for me to listen to her past relationship I would just listen and think like hey I can’t do much about it yk almost little to no jealousy. As we grew closer and more into our relationship when the past would get mentioned it would hurt more and more because I cared more and more for her, but I would always want to know more and hear it even if it hurt. It’s more about the emotional aspect. There was a period where I needed constant reassurance because my overthinking was constant. As time went on I grew out of it. But as of this past night 12:55am her ex requested to follow her on ig. I just asked her is there any reason for that? She said no and that it’s random to her also. I kept asking and asking and said maybe I don’t feel secure in the relationship and straight up said what I’ve always thought that I feel like I’m emotionally competing because she’s mentioned how she respects him still, or she won’t have something like that again, and how she still cares for him. I just kept asking and she kept doubling down about still caring for him. She said “wouldn’t you say the same for me if we broke up”. feels like a manipulation tactic kinda. That’s Basically the jist of it. How would you feel. Disrespected? Hurt? Would you understand it? (If any further details wanted feel free to ask)