Went on a date last Saturday that was supposed to be 1 to 2 hours and turned into almost 6! The chemistry felt strong. We talked easily, had a lot in common, and there was A LOT of natural physical touch throughout. She initiated the kiss at the end and even insisted multiple times on driving me home but I said I can drive back home. I asked her to text me when she got home, she did, and I replied thanking her for today.
Since then, NOTHING. I called once Monday and sent “call me when you get a chance” text. No double texting, no pressure. It’s been several days with no response?
I’m not angry and I’m not begging. I just genuinely don’t understand how someone can show that level of interest in person and then go completely silent. did I misread the whole thing?
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Did you meet on a dating app by any chance?
Damn
What was the date? 6 hours is a really long time, was there a natural/easy out? I don’t know her personality type, she could’ve been masking enjoyment and didn’t know how to end it. She could genuinely be busy.
Only time will tell honestly. Busy person will say she is busy. Someone with experiences will say this sounds like a love bombing push pull mechanic. There is no right answer now. Only the next date or response can shed the light.
Don’t overthink it. Seems like you are handling it and would suggest continue so – you reached out, live your life, ball is in her court.
Rationalizing her behavior sadly is pointless with this much information.
Other than that, sounds like a nice date, happy for you!
Dude she was trying to have some kind of fun that night and you just decided to go home and leave her high and dry. I’m not saying you did anything wrong morally, but it seems like you blew your chance.
Insisted on driving you home despite you having your own ride and ghosted after you refused? Tinfoil hat on but she might’ve been trying to rob you.
I don’t know how to explain this in a simpler way except to say this behaviour on both sides is a massive red flag. Not judging it’s learned from painful personal experience.
The dynamic is something like this, you’re an adult or supposed to be, you meet someone and the connection, chemistry, lust whatever you call it makes you forget they are a complete stranger you just met. What was supposed to be 1-2 hrs turns to 6 because you’re behaving like someone on drugs with an addiction. You got high and tried to hold on to the high.
What goes up must come down, which is why it’s always best to strive for balance/the middle ground no matter how you feel. This stuff happens because 90% of the time both people lack or struggle with boundaries. You need to have respect for your heart and the healthy thing to do if you’re looking for something serious and to last, is to let the other person earn trust over time.
When you act like they aren’t a stranger that could be putting on a show to play you, you’re signalling so much and rarely is it positive. Sure there are exceptions of people who have met the love of their life like this, get married after 5 weeks and still together after 20 years, these are a minority.
Date like you respect yourself, your time, and your future partner’s. Do you guys not have other things to do, lives to live? If not, and that is why you have time to spend 6 hrs with a complete stranger then count your blessings here because in all likelihood, you were dealing with someone that was going to make you regret meeting them for reasons other than the time you spent on this date.
Someone said it’s not love bombing, I disagree, it’s possible you both were doing that to each other so take initiative next time, have and enforce boundaries, if you gel with someone you can still end the date with enthusiasm and express excitement to meet again next time.
You guys behaved like you knew you’d never meet again, the subconcious mind is wild.
That’s weird from her. Anyway, calls might be “too much” for some people, so it’s always better to just leave a text. I think she is gonna surface at some point but for me it would already be a red flag
Did you pay for everything ?