I’m a 39f and married to my 40m husband for 13 years and have been together for 21 years. On Wednesday I found out he has been using cocaine for the last 2 years and hiding and lying about it. We have 2 kids 7 and 9. My oldest is on the spectrum and ADHD. After doing some digging it turns out that he’s been transferring around 4K a month to his personal account for his habit. He has been draining our family savings. I didn’t notice since I’ve renovated 3 of our houses in the last 15 months. He did abuse drugs before when he was 19. His dad was an alcoholic and his mom had depression and was a smoker for 45 years. Both died because of their addictions. I’ve been supportive of him for the last 21 years and did everything for him. I acknowledge his struggles and begged him to get help. I don’t know what to do. I am lost.