My husband and I have been married about 8 months and I feel like we hardly time spend together. It’s frustrating and makes me feel like I’m constantly angry at him. Here’s what’s happening- I work in the public school system so my schedule M-F is around 7:30-3:30. He works in the office about 4 hours a day. He will sleep in until 10-11am, go to work and come home. Because he sleeps in, he works later, until 6 or 7 at home. Sometimes we cook together, most times he will go play his video games from 6-9pm. He sometimes eat around 9 and will get in bed with me for bed. On the weekends however he sleeps in our guest room because he stays up until 4am playing video games. I won’t allow him to come in our bedroom and wake me up at such late hours.
Anytime I make comments about the video games, I always get shut down. I don’t have issues with the video games itself, it’s the copious amount of time he spends on it. Tonight, which is a Friday night- I got home around 3:45, and of course he was still working. Well around 4:45pm he takes a nap, and he didn’t go in work until 11am. It irks me because I know tonight he will choose to stay up until 3am, yet instead of spending time together after I get off he’s sleeping… again.
It makes me constantly angry because I don’t ever feel chosen. Thoughts??
Advice?