Throw away because I have my bf on my main reddit account. We have been together for a year and a half now (we do not live together, I have my own apartment and he’s with his parents, for some reason I feel this is important). The incident that lead me here happened yesterday, I told my boyfriend I wanted to see wuthering heights in theaters. I love Charli XCX and he knows that, and I wanted to see the movie she made a soundtrack for. Today there was a couple of showings at our local theater. I mentioned this over text yesterday and he kept saying it’s not up his alley, not something he wants to see, “doesn’t understand the hype”, saying he shouldn’t have to be forced to do something he doesn’t want to do. after I asked how it can be this bad, he did say he’d think on it more. I came over today to see if he had changed his mind any, because if he did, we needed to leave soon. He said he had felt “off” all day. It was 5 ish PM, he never said anything about feeling off earlier that day, and that is usually something he’d bring up in conversation. I asked if this meant a no to the movie, and all of a sudden, he hides his head under his pillow and blankets, moaning and grunting, throwing a fit at noise, telling me to be quiet. This is not the first time he’s done this. I never thought much into it, he has autism, and I try to be understanding. But this was so odd. And his past meltdowns (as I call it) have always been I say I wanna go out to eat, even do something at home. At this point, I want to be understanding. But this seems too much of a coincidence. I love him and I absolutely do not want to accuse him of lying or faking it, but I’m starting to question things. He never had a problem for the two metal concerts he went to with his friends, but can’t go to see a movie in theaters? I do not have austim, so I guess I’m looking for the best way to have a conversation with him on this without undermining his feelings, but making sure mine are also understood/heard. I do not want to be the person to say “omg he’s faking it” because I know how that feels, I just am so lost right now
TL;DR I feel my boyfriend is faking meltdowns to avoid things I wanna do and I don’t know how to have a conversation about it without undermining his feelings