Not currently in a relationship but I’m curious about what to do.

I have some kinks, mainly a piss one and ENF (Embarrassed Naked Female) (honestly should try to get rid of that one…) and I definitely understand if someone does not want to even attempt those.

Also, I hate being pushy about anything so I’d just probably be embarrassed and never bring it up again. Just wondering if that’s the right thing to do, it probably is.


6 comments

  1. Ask the first time.

    “I respect your no. Is it something you might feel differently about in the future, or is that a hard limit for you?”

  2. a lot of people end up hiding their kinks til they’re in a relationship, and then being frustrated because they can’t explore them. if you find yourself in this situation, you should absolutely not push after receiving a no, and it’s good that you seem to understand that being pushy is an unacceptable negotiation of consent.

    however, you’re not in a relationship. you don’t have to end up frustrated. if your kinks are important to you, you should be open about them when looking for potential partners, or very early on in getting to know them, before you have agreed to a relationship. that way, you can find people who actively enjoy the same kinks as you, and have relationships with them.

    having to open up to a partner you’re already in a relationship with about kinks you want to try is the worst case scenario.

  3. You stay with someone long enough, preferences can change but I wouldn’t count on it. We were married a few years before we played with pee here and there. Same with ass play, tried it on the honeymoon and now anal is a once-in-awhile for me, which in my dating days was a firm exit-only. Sometimes I get in the mood for a cock in my ass, and he’s thrilled when it happens.

    Not gonna say she’ll be up for anything, but you can check back in here and there.

  4. Your main fetishes seem to be about humiliating/degrading women (giving them wedgies, pissing on them, ENF?) can’t imagine a lot of women would be into that without questioning why you’re into that.

  6. You can ask again, peoples tastes change over time. Its good to get clarification in the convo thugh on if its a hard no or not.

    Ive had things my lady said she would never do but we now do. Joking about certain things can bring them into conversation and you can talk about things without saying i want this. Usually leads to a more receptive audience

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