Hi everyone, I (f 24) need help understanding men. A few weeks ago I met a guy (m 27) on Tinder who felt like my dream guy.
From the first few days he was love bombing me a lot of sweet words, intensity, calling me “my love,” “honey,” etc. I didn’t like it because my instincts told me not to fall for it.
I didn’t say those things back because I don’t say what I don’t genuinely feel yet. He asked me why I wasn’t responding with the same affection, and I told him exactly that.
As he got to know me more, he started asking strange questions, like whether I’m religious (saving myself for the one) and if I wanted to play a “flirting game,” which I didn’t really understand.
Then he talked about his ex they were together for six years and she left him. When it was my turn, I said that six years is a lot and that I believe communication is more important than “true love” and maybe shared a lot about what I think about partners and maybe spoke alot…
After that… the love bombing stopped immediately. And then he ghosted me. I was hurt because, deep down, I did like him. I ended up removing him from my life and social media because I felt I deserved respect, although I regret it sometimes. I’m trying to understand: Why the love bombing?
Did I do something wrong?
Why can’t men just say they aren’t interested instead of ghosting me?
Btw deep down I feel like I’d do anything to try again because I truly liked him and wanted to get the full chance and have them all for me.
TL;DR; : Guy showed intense interest fast, then disappeared when I didn’t match the pace. I liked him and feel hurt I'm trying to understand if this was love bombing and what it means.