Back in October I met a woman who is from NYC at an event we were both working at where I live in California (me with the venue, her with the show), it was a 4 day event and over the last 2 days we had a few conversations and always said hi to each other in passing. At the end of the event, I saw her on my way to clock out and had a long conversation with her where I told her I really enjoyed meeting her and we ended up having a long conversation about our faith. I finally said goodbye and as I was walking away, she was following me and called my name and told me to give her a long hug and I did. I didn’t ask her for any contact info which I regretted, but I couldn’t stop thinking about her and after a week I decided to just search her name to try to find her IG or something and ended up finding it and messaging her. She sent me a very nice message back, but notably did not follow me back (and still to this day does not), we went back and forth a bit and then I told her that I sometimes to go to NYC to visit friends and asked her if she would ever want to hang out if I was there and she said sure. We spent the next several months, going back and forth a bit, mostly just her occasionally sending me reels and me responding to them and I messaged her on Christmas and she messaged me on New Year’s. She was a bit short over text and I didn’t really ever get the sense she was super interested in conversing but she still messaged me somewhat frequently. Last month I decided to go to NYC in January to stay with my friend, in large part because I just needed a vacation but admittedly I really wanted to see her. When I told her my days she seemed excited but seemed a bit noncommittal in terms of making plans, saying she wanted to play it by ear. I was a bit worried she wasn’t actually that interested in seeing me, but Friday morning I asked her if she could do something over the weekend and she asked me about going to dinner that night and we made plans.
When I was with her, the energy was completely different than over texts, she repeatedly told me how happy she was that I asked her to hang out, kept complimenting me and telling me all of these things she liked about me and we had some very very deep conversations about our faith and life experiences and she was writing down some things I was saying about our faith and life that she said she wanted to remember. There was one point where she was talking about herself doubt and I told her why I really liked and respected her and it brought her to tears. She talked about us doing things in the future as if it was a given and overall I had about as great of a time with her as I could have possibly hoped to have and it ended on a great note. On the subway ride back with her she asked me to pray with her and we did and then I put my arm around her and she leaned into me before we got off and I gave her a hug goodbye. But now that we are apart, she has been as short over text as before and still doesn’t follow me on IG, I sent her a message the next day that I was so glad I saw her and phrased the text in a way to signal clear romantic interest without being too direct and she merely liked the message and I haven’t heard from her since. I really just have no idea how she actually feels about me or where I could possibly take this from here but I really like her and I’ve never connected with someone in person the way I have her.
TLDR; woman I met acts way more interested in me in person than over text, we live across the country so now that I’m going home unsure how to move forward