Finally got a first date and she called it off before it happened.

I (28M) broke up with my last girlfriend about a year ago. I initiated the breakup, I liked her, but I could tell we were just too different, came from different worlds, had different values, and it wasn’t gonna work long term. I wasn’t too upset over it and honestly I was glad it was over.

I had a really bad heartbreak several months ago when I started falling for a girl I have class with. We really became close friends and connected a lot. I was very close to asking her out, when I found out she had a boyfriend the whole time. The past month or two I’ve finally started to move past it.

I’ve had a Hinge account for probably several months and but only really started using the last two or three. I’ve matched with quite a few women, but the conversations all seem to fizzle out before any date actually happens. About 2 weeks ago, I matched with a girl, and we messaged back and forth for a bit, seemed to be going pretty well, and a couple days ago we made a plan to meet tomorrow for coffee. Finally, after a lousy relationship, bad heartbreak, and all of this time, I secured a date I was excited about.

Well she texted me this evening and said she didn’t feel a romantic connection and felt best that we cancel it. I texted her that I understand and I appreciated her honesty and good luck going forward, etc. Obviously I’m upset.

I feel like I’m always playing this long game, trying to really meet the right person, and it never pays off. I’m in college and I’m around people all day, and I’m able to converse, laugh and make friends with young women, no problem. I just don’t think they ever view me romantically. As much as I have a desire to get married someday and have a family, I’m feeling doomed to the single life.