This is by far my longest post here. Please bear with me.
I've (24M) been on Hinge for about 7-8 months on and off. I'm based in a big city in NA and one of the most multicultural ones in the world.
About me- I'm South Asian, and live in a condo midwtown with my best friend and am doing okay in my career. I'd say I'm fairly attactive both physically and personality wise. 6'1, head full of medium/long hair, dress well and am physically fit as well. I have multiple hobbies. I like to read, run, hike, gym, travel and mostly of all I race bikes for a team and am sponsored to an extent.
I get around 2-3 matches a week and on a good week around 4-5. Of which 99% of the white are white/caucasian women. I figure this is mostly because they match my lifestyle and interests to a great extent. Nothing against women of other race/ethnicity. I just do not like/match women with no personality and passions at all no matter how attractive they are physically.
A lot of these matches go nowhere. Either I mess up during texting, the covo just dies or other various reasons. I've managed to get 3 dates out of these. All of these women matches my personality and were attractive physically as well. And all of them happened to be coffee dates in the afternoon.
The first one was the best. We talked for 2.5 hours and had a great convo. The time flew by. Although I did not compliement her on her apprearance at all. Which I relaized I messed up on. She went on a 4 day trip next day. After she returned, I asked her out again and got the not feeling the connection text. It was devastating as she was all I look for in a woman. Very common niche interests. I deleted Hinge for 5 months after that lol.
Second one was okay. 1.5 hours over coffe. We didn't match so well on paper but I liked her enough to ask on a second date. And so I did. Although I took a day to decide and asked her on the day after the date. She replied a day later saying she's down for it. I then sent her a thorough plan with 2 options for the second date. And then she hits me with "not feeling a connection" text. That left me confused more than rejected as to what made her change her mind within 24 hours. She said the plan for the second date was fun too so it wasn't that. I still don't know lol.
The third one was an okay date as well. We should be great on paper but the date was just meh. Had some awkward silences and I didn't feel a strong connection either but again, I liked her just enough to ask for a second one and for which I was lowkey okay with being rejected. I asked her out on a running second date. You can already guess what she said.