We met on Hinge and our first date was in December. Things went really well and we ended up seeing each other 6 times in 2 weeks, with sex on the third date.
I had a trip to Japan after that, and was overseas for 2.5 weeks, and we chatted every day while I was gone. She came over for dinner the night I got back and stayed the night. We saw each other a couple more times after.
Then, she broke things off suddenly. I am the first guy she has dated in 7 years after her abusive ex, and dating again has been really hard on her and made her realise she has never properly processed things from back then. She told me she is actively working on her issues and had already booked in to see a therapist. We had dinner planned that night, and decided to have her still come over. Nothing physical, we just hung out, cooked, ate, and discussed how she’s feeling for the most part.
It’s been a couple weeks now and we’ve still stayed in contact, her messages have gotten shorter and colder, but she’s still friendly and consistent with replies.
As far as I can see things, she does want to date and wants a long term partner, and she thinks I’m lovely, treat her right, and am super understanding. But she can’t date right now, and I don’t know when she will be ready.
So I feel kind of stuck, I know waiting for her is stupid, she might not want me again down the line, who knows what the future holds, but I also feel like if I start seeing someone else, I’m going to be doing it halfhearted, knowing this girl is off on the sidelines and could come back at a moments notice. I just feel a little lost on how to proceed.