For guys with smaller š, how do you follow up to a girl asking you if itās big?
February 18, 2026
Exchanging flirty messages with a girl on Tinder and she straight up just asks if itās big. Is there any way to continue this conversation without drying her up if Iām in fact not big? š
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Be honest. If she has a problem with it .. She’s not the one.
I always be honest.
I also don’t care much to pursue someone if size is a concern to them. No hate, people can like and want whatever… But I’m not gonna pretend I’m something I’m not since it’ll be an obvious incompatibility issue later.
Literally be honest and gauge whether it’s likely to lead to resentment or if we can work with it.
I do have kinks relating to that and sometimes I’ll share them so that we’re both happy.
“Invite me over and I’ll show you ”
Or
“Come find out ”
You dont owe her a straight answer. But dont directly lie. Be teasing and playful.
Unless your dick is so small that it honestly requires a disclaimer. Like under 4 inches maybe.
If youāre honest with her and she isnāt into you, then youāre dodging a bullet.
The thing abvout flirty messages is that you if you say “well mines is small” it kind of kills the mood. Dont exageratte it and set a high expectation either. Flirty questions deserve flirty responses.
And honestly odds are your isnt as small as you think. Just cause it’s not 8+ inches long doesnt make it small.
Personally i have a 5.5, ive had 0 complaints for it and im sure im not all my parnters and former partner’s biggest, but i just learned best angles to pleasure them.
But going back to you, idepending on how close/flirty we’ve gotten.
Id probvably respond with “I can’t give you all the secrets. some secrets you have to be shown”.
if you two are comfortable enough with each other to make it very sexual id literally say this super risky text:
“i cant give you all the secrets but you can judge yourself when it’s inside of you” (i know sounds a bit cringe but so is most flirty text that goes that far.
Iād be honest BUT I wouldnāt have this convo on tinder and idk about her. Tinder can be shady I would meet her first or confirm sheās legit before continuing this.
It gets bigger if you play with it.
ask her to come and measure it (find out)
Iāve had alot of women asks this, especially when I was younger. But most people asking that right away are dudes with fake pictures posing as women. Now days, I couldnāt imagine how much this happens with AI and the lack of interpersonal social skills due to the way young guys grew up.
Why do girls even ask this question? Thats like if a guy asked “are you tight?” So weird…
I mean Iād be annoyed if I asked a guy and he said it was big and we met up and it wasnāt. So definitely donāt say itās big but also donāt say itās small because youāre not gonna be a response. Just say sheāll have to find out for herself
If youāre more of an avg size, then say that. Everyone has their preferences. Similar to boob size. No need to feel any way about it one way or another. Itāll work out for the best in the end. Good luck!
I date a lot and women don’t ask. If someone on OLD asked about the size of my dick I would just assume it’s a dude catfishing and unmatch.
Iāve been having sex with girls regularly for 20 years brother and Iāve never had one ask about it if they havenāt already seen it. That would be a red flag. Now once youāre in the throws or after itās free game.
Iām not a man so take this for what itās worth. But if I was I would just stop talking to that person. Itās a huge turn off.
As a woman I hate being asked if my body is this or that. Meet me and find out. If itās so important to you that you ask, Iāve already lost interest.
“It’s sensitive with high-mobility”
Itās all kinds of sizes
I would just say it’s below average…..
Watch her turn into a ghost….
šÆšÆšÆ
Every girl iv met doesn’t care, 1 even said as long as it gos in who cares, š funny enough I turn down every hook up so far myself
Who asks thatš. It’s one thing to see it (pics if he wants to show or irl). But asking like that would make a lot of men insecure even if they have no real reason to be. It’s like if you’d ask her about her labia or kegelsšā ļø.
I’ve never known another girl to ask this but like, I would respond with humor tbh
I just say I’m small but I put in work! šš
You tell her she will still feel it when you put it in her ass.
That hasnāt happened to me since I was like 20 and thinking I liked one night stands. Maybe this is more common when youāre looking for more short-term things, which hasnāt appealed to me in a while, but I never found a reason to lie.
I usually just said Iām a grower not a shower, and they usually knew what that meant. If they donāt want me then thereās no love lost. To each their own.
” the DOW is over 50,000 ” big
This doesn’t answer your question at all, I just wanted to share this…
It was about two summers ago and I was much like the woman asking you this and my partner at the time said “I don’t have a big dick”
And it was in that moment that I realized, dicks come in different sizes.
Be honest what if she doesn’t want a big dick and checking if your the size she likes.
Her: Is it big?
Me: Come confirm for yourself. It’s rude for one to praise himself.
Just say itās long enough to send her to heaven.
If she still insists, sheād just too superficial (and she already was by just asking)
Iām just honest about it. Itās not like you can lie your way out of it down the road.
Iād normally follow up with āitās big enoughā or ādonāt worry it does itās jobā or something along those lines. Donāt lie about it obviously but trust me if that is gonna be something she actually cares about the moment than you probably donāt need to be messing with girl who cares about that.
Also if Iām being honest, big dick are lowkey overrated considering most women donāt even get off from what your doing with your penis, but rather from the foreplay that lead up to it
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Be honest. If she has a problem with it .. She’s not the one.
I always be honest.
I also don’t care much to pursue someone if size is a concern to them. No hate, people can like and want whatever… But I’m not gonna pretend I’m something I’m not since it’ll be an obvious incompatibility issue later.
Literally be honest and gauge whether it’s likely to lead to resentment or if we can work with it.
I do have kinks relating to that and sometimes I’ll share them so that we’re both happy.
“Invite me over and I’ll show you ”
Or
“Come find out ”
You dont owe her a straight answer. But dont directly lie. Be teasing and playful.
Unless your dick is so small that it honestly requires a disclaimer. Like under 4 inches maybe.
If youāre honest with her and she isnāt into you, then youāre dodging a bullet.
The thing abvout flirty messages is that you if you say “well mines is small” it kind of kills the mood. Dont exageratte it and set a high expectation either. Flirty questions deserve flirty responses.
And honestly odds are your isnt as small as you think. Just cause it’s not 8+ inches long doesnt make it small.
Personally i have a 5.5, ive had 0 complaints for it and im sure im not all my parnters and former partner’s biggest, but i just learned best angles to pleasure them.
But going back to you, idepending on how close/flirty we’ve gotten.
Id probvably respond with “I can’t give you all the secrets. some secrets you have to be shown”.
if you two are comfortable enough with each other to make it very sexual id literally say this super risky text:
“i cant give you all the secrets but you can judge yourself when it’s inside of you” (i know sounds a bit cringe but so is most flirty text that goes that far.
Iād be honest BUT I wouldnāt have this convo on tinder and idk about her. Tinder can be shady I would meet her first or confirm sheās legit before continuing this.
It gets bigger if you play with it.
ask her to come and measure it (find out)
Iāve had alot of women asks this, especially when I was younger. But most people asking that right away are dudes with fake pictures posing as women. Now days, I couldnāt imagine how much this happens with AI and the lack of interpersonal social skills due to the way young guys grew up.
Why do girls even ask this question? Thats like if a guy asked “are you tight?” So weird…
I mean Iād be annoyed if I asked a guy and he said it was big and we met up and it wasnāt. So definitely donāt say itās big but also donāt say itās small because youāre not gonna be a response. Just say sheāll have to find out for herself
If youāre more of an avg size, then say that. Everyone has their preferences. Similar to boob size. No need to feel any way about it one way or another. Itāll work out for the best in the end. Good luck!
I date a lot and women don’t ask. If someone on OLD asked about the size of my dick I would just assume it’s a dude catfishing and unmatch.
Iāve been having sex with girls regularly for 20 years brother and Iāve never had one ask about it if they havenāt already seen it. That would be a red flag. Now once youāre in the throws or after itās free game.
Iām not a man so take this for what itās worth. But if I was I would just stop talking to that person. Itās a huge turn off.
As a woman I hate being asked if my body is this or that. Meet me and find out. If itās so important to you that you ask, Iāve already lost interest.
“It’s sensitive with high-mobility”
Itās all kinds of sizes
I would just say it’s below average…..
Watch her turn into a ghost….
šÆšÆšÆ
Every girl iv met doesn’t care, 1 even said as long as it gos in who cares, š funny enough I turn down every hook up so far myself
Who asks thatš. It’s one thing to see it (pics if he wants to show or irl). But asking like that would make a lot of men insecure even if they have no real reason to be. It’s like if you’d ask her about her labia or kegelsšā ļø.
I’ve never known another girl to ask this but like, I would respond with humor tbh
I just say I’m small but I put in work! šš
You tell her she will still feel it when you put it in her ass.
That hasnāt happened to me since I was like 20 and thinking I liked one night stands. Maybe this is more common when youāre looking for more short-term things, which hasnāt appealed to me in a while, but I never found a reason to lie.
I usually just said Iām a grower not a shower, and they usually knew what that meant. If they donāt want me then thereās no love lost. To each their own.
” the DOW is over 50,000 ” big
This doesn’t answer your question at all, I just wanted to share this…
It was about two summers ago and I was much like the woman asking you this and my partner at the time said “I don’t have a big dick”
And it was in that moment that I realized, dicks come in different sizes.
Be honest what if she doesn’t want a big dick and checking if your the size she likes.
Her: Is it big?
Me: Come confirm for yourself. It’s rude for one to praise himself.
Just say itās long enough to send her to heaven.
If she still insists, sheād just too superficial (and she already was by just asking)
Iām just honest about it. Itās not like you can lie your way out of it down the road.
I follow up with this [conversation](https://youtu.be/kAG39jKi0lI?si=dYslF8AFIfD_XSjN), regarding size of the dongle
Iād normally follow up with āitās big enoughā or ādonāt worry it does itās jobā or something along those lines. Donāt lie about it obviously but trust me if that is gonna be something she actually cares about the moment than you probably donāt need to be messing with girl who cares about that.
Also if Iām being honest, big dick are lowkey overrated considering most women donāt even get off from what your doing with your penis, but rather from the foreplay that lead up to it
āNo, but I eat pussy like a starving horse.ā
as they say… small penis, big dreams