I'm always told same old advice, go to the gym, get a career, have hobbies etc. etc, if I ever want a partner with the same mindset. The advice is getting tiredsome like as if there is some still leftover work to do. I get setup on dates by mutuals, but it's always with people who aren't right for me. Not to sound mean, but I just feel like most of these people are beneath my standards because they haven't done the work I put in, but I feel like society is trying to tel me something and that l it's all that I deserve no matter how much I try to follow the advice. And the people who I do feel meet my standards and I am most compatible with (usually coworkers since we are in the same trajectory in life) aren't interested at all.