I f26 and this guy M29 have been on two great dates now, both of which have ended with fun nights/mornings together. I feel like we both really click, our chemistry is off the charts and great intimacy. However, I find his intelligence to be the biggest draw, we have the same passions and have spent both dates talking in depth about the things we care about and being able to have a nice banter and really intellectual conversations. It’s something I’ve been looking for in dating and it’s definitely great to find that connection in addition to the physical connection. He’s really attractive as well and has been clear about finding me attractive as well.
I guess I can’t really tell what his intent is though. It’s a bit soon to be making those judgements anyway, it’s only been twice that we have seen eachother, but the connection feels magnetic. I guess I’ve had guys in the past who text more and have acted maybe more interested inbetween though?
He and I texted every day between seeing eachother but it was sparing, definitely interested in the convo but I’ve had guys text a lot more. When we made plans he made suggestions for the hangout and was the one to follow up the day of. Maybe I’m in my head but since he left today I texted to say I had a great time and was looking forward to seeing him again, he didn’t answer for several hours and basically said ya same hmu when you’re back from your trip (I don’t leave for over a week)…I feel like I’m getting shuttled into the sex-only category and don’t want what.
The thing that’s catching me is that he is being respectful and kind but isn’t rly acting like he’s pursuing me. Idk how to explain it, I guess I’ve just had guys act more eager but I’ve had less of a connection with them. This guy has caught me off guard and I’m looking to just manage my expectations. I think just continuing to see him and maybe seeing where it goes is my best bet? I just find his behavior a bit confusing, super attentive but also not acting like he’s pursuing me.
I asked what he’s up to this weekend and he was like oh yeah I have a party to attend with a friend and some other stuff and I was like oh nice, and I’m going on a trip next week and want to see him before. I want to see if he’s gonna reach out to make plans before I go on my trip or not? I know he has a busy time at work in the next two weeks and don’t want to be annoying but also don’t want it to fizzle out. Trying to be rational but I’m dickmatized. Any advice is welcome lol.