I’ve been seeing someone for a few months now and have really been enjoying him and the time we spend together. While we haven’t had a specific conversation about exclusivity, we’ve both commented that we aren’t seeing other people and he has said a few times that he feels like he’s really starting to fall for me, we make a lot of future plans, etc…
Recently, I noticed myself starting to become anxious about things (likely due to previous experiences I’ve had in dating) and compulsively checked his dating profile. I saw that he updated what he’s looking for, from “figuring it out” to “long-term relationship,” and my heart sank.
Usually, I would see this and decide immediately that I’m being played and show myself out, but I care about him and where this could go, so I want to do things differently and address how I’m feeling with him, even if I’m worried about the outcome, because if I don’t, I know my anxiety will negatively impact how I behave with him and that’ll mess things up.
Obviously, I would be respectful and not accusatory. I’m not coming from a place of bad intentions, trying to trap him, or convince him to only keep seeing me if he isn’t already. I think I just need some clarity so I can protect my heart.
So I guess I just want some (nonjudgmental) perspectives here—if you were me, would you address it? Would you try to let it go and just let things play out how they will?