so I've dated off and on or gone on dates I should say since my ex left about 6 years ago. since then I'm in a constant pattern especially on the apps that you know I'll hang out with somebody for 3 or 4 months no sex or anything and then I don't hear from them and then I hear from them maybe 7 months later. should I just do what I've been doing and go with the flow or should I be responding enough to say you know I'm not one to be intimate right away it's tough though it's weird because I'm not looking for serious relationship right now but I feel like with a lot of people that translates into friends with benefits which I never want. any suggestions on what I should say or do?