First time posting here. I (F36) have been married to my husband (M36), together for 16 years and have two kids. We have an amazing relationship. About 5 years ago, my husband started doing acting lessons and has since done commercials and small parts in tv shows. I'm really proud of his accomplishments and I am so happy he found something he's so passionate about. The issue rised when we talked about him doing jobs where he would have to kiss a partner or act out sex scenes. I am not comfortable with it at all. I understand very well it's all pretend but the lips and bodies are still actually touching. I always say: if you pretend to make a cake and throw in all the ingredients and put it in the oven, a cake will come out of it. Secondly, it's no secret that a lot of actors fall in love on set. I believe that acting sex scenes creates an intimacy that is quite thrilling. My husband is understanding of this but I feel guilty about him potentially missing out on roles. I've made a list of things I could compromise on: Small kisses, gay sex scenes and even nudity. Recently, he was offered a part when he'd do a rough sex scene with an actress: taking off clothes and panties, biting skin, passionate kissing. He discussed it with me and was fine with not taking the part because it was an unpaid job to help out a friend. If I had married him as an actor, it'd be different, but now I feel like he's asking me to change the basic rules of our relationship. So reddit, am I being irrational asking him not to do parts where he has to kiss someone else or act out sex scenes?
EDIT: We live in a country where intimacy coordinators simply do not exist.