Hi, sorry for any mistakes but English is not my first language.
Yesterday me and my boyfriend of 6 years went to the movies and he was driving (I don't usually drive in places idk because I have anxiety related problems and I've also recently been in an accident).
In the middle of the movie he was feeling a bit unwell (stomach problems) so we went straight out of the cinema and he decided to take the highway to arrive home later.
He went to that cinema a thousand times but we also had Google maps on to be sure, but we made a mistake (only 3 minutes more, mind you) and then the rage started.
He started yelling in a way I've never seen him yell and calling me names. This already happened some time ago, also while driving (he called me names), but never like this.
It was scary, especially while driving on the highway, I've never seen anyone in my life react that way and yell like that.
This happened also when we were out of the highway and took the wrong turn again.
When we parked and had to arrive home on an unfamiliar road I was shaking and crying, I was terrified of him and of being in a car with a person that unwell, but finally we arrived home safely.
He said he was very sorry and that it was because he felt like I wasn't helping (because I couldn't drive his car), that he had stomach issues and that he is very scared of highways.
What scared me was him switching from a normal state to complete rage, especially on the road.
The morning after he told me he's sorry, but that I over reacted.
I know it was just a moment, but I'm literally shaking just thinking about it, it was terrifying for me (but maybe I'm too sensitive idk).
But it makes me think he's also a yeller with his parents and of other times he called me names.
I don't know how to approach the situation when I see him again, I told him that he should talk about that in therapy, but he thinks that I'm over reacting and that made me question myself.
I would like to get over it, but I keep picturing him yelling in that way and it's difficult, Idk what to do.
Other than this he's great to me and he seems to love me very much.
TLDR: my boyfriend yelled at me in a very violent way for a trivial problem and told me I have over reacted.