TL;DR: I (32F) sponsored my husband to Canada, currently pay almost all bills while he’s unemployed and building a future business, do most household work, feel unsupported regarding his mother’s hostile behavior toward me, and today an argument escalated badly. I feel exhausted and stuck and need outside perspective.
Hi everyone,
I’m a 32F and have been married for almost 4 years. My husband (32M) and I dated for about 2 years before getting married.
I moved to Canada first, and we did long-distance for nearly 2 years. I later went back to my home country, married him, sponsored his visa, and brought him to Canada. He’s been here for around 2 years now.
I work full-time and currently pay most of our expenses — rent, car payments, insurance, and other bills. My husband used to do part-time work but stopped about 3 months ago because he’s in the process of starting his own business. The business is still under construction and likely won’t be operational for another 3 months. At the moment, he mainly covers groceries, using money his family sends him to support the business. His family is financially comfortable.
What’s becoming overwhelming is that I feel like I’m carrying the entire load — financially, emotionally, and mentally. Despite being home most days, he rarely helps with cooking or household chores, and I still end up managing most things after work.
Another major issue is his mother. She consistently ignores me and clearly dislikes me. What hurts the most is that my husband doesn’t acknowledge or address her behavior, even though it affects me deeply.
This morning, we got into an argument about his mother’s behavior while I was cooking. The argument escalated, and he threw the food I was making into the garbage. That moment left me feeling shocked and deeply hurt.
I feel exhausted, unappreciated, and stuck in this marriage. I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable or if this situation is as unhealthy as it feels. I would really appreciate any outside perspective or advice.