Me 26M and gf 22F have been together for about 4 months. It’s been roses and sunshine all along up until recently.
Some background: we live in different cities about 1,5h drive. It’s never been a problem though since we meet every weekend and have a lot of phone calls.
So we haven’t had any problems, only thing I’ve been feeling that I haven’t told her up until now was that I’m the one always, like 9/10 times initiating the meet-up. This is not the issue I’m about to adress though.
Like I mentioned we always see eachother every Saturday, and I mean EVERY. Last weekend we didn’t meet because she had a lot going on and was exhausted said she needed time to relax just be alone. I said sure babe. This week we talked on the phone daily like always and I didn’t initiate the meet-up just to see if she would. So Friday comes and I call her and ask her plans since she hasn’t said anything. She says she’s meeting her female friend she hasn’t seen in a while. I’m like okay, that’s on Saturday don’t you want to meet me on Sunday? She says its not worth meeting up for half a day its too short.
I’m a bit baffled now. I tell her that if this continues then my needs in this relationship won’t be met. And she says she doesn’t know what she can do about that. Which I think is a crazy thing to say, being so uncaring. I mean the least she could respond is sure let’s meet for atleast a couple of hours here and there and try to find a compromise but she was extremely unwilling.
ANYWAYS, so I ask what about next weekend and she answers, I don’t know I don’t want to plan anything now it feels forced like we have to meet. I’m like WTF is going on. I literally can’t understand anything. She says she doesn’t have the same need to meet up every weekend. And because we have done that for 4 months she needs to breath and meet her friends and family.
So basically if we don’t meet then it will have gone a month since we last saw eachother. I feel very disrespected and I don’t know what to do. I really don’t want to give an ultimatum.
TLDR: Girlfriend is acting weird, not making time for me. She doesn’t understand my needs and doesn’t care about finding a compromise.