My husband (35M) and I (37F) have been married 4 years. He has a group of friends that all go to a certain bar in town. Its an outdoor bar, I live in a tropical country. Whenever he wants to go out, he says he is going there. This has been going on for years at this point and when I questioned it, he would sometimes call me from the place.
I never really believed him as he always prepares himself too much to go sit outside. He also has used his Mom as an excuse for this as well. He will say his Mom called him to come get something or do something and its particularly late. So I decided to put my Google pixel (extra phone) in the car seat and track it tonight. After about 40 minutes he arrived at a Thai Massage parlor. In this country that could mean, a happy ending massage or happier ending (like some prostitute themselves). I inquired on their line and they sent me photos of women and a menu of normal massages (Obvs prostitution is illegal). There Facebook page says available 24/7.
Before I first tracked the phone, I messaged him and asked if he reached his destination, no reply. When he was still for about 8 minutes, I called him and he cut the call. He then messaged me saying he was at his Best friends house (location is nowhere near that massage place) and was just saying hi before going to the bar. I said ok and I hung up. He remained there for about 20 minutes and then drove to the bar.
I do realize that since hes such a liar, he may have lied about many things but I am trying to decide what is the best way to approach it. How would you approach this?
TL;DR! Husband goes for "hot" massages and lies