hello I’m writing here because what better place than Reddit.. I 32/F left boyfriend 29/M after a year and 1 month long relationship. for context, we moved very quickly from talking, to dating, to living together all with 4 months. it was pure bliss at the beginning and we hardly ever had fights or arguments. once we lived together it started to change. obviously I know its because we moved quickly. but regardless we have lived together for the last 9 months and have had our fair share of issues but have also had a fair share of amazing memories along the way. honestly I believed he was my soulmate but the verbal abuse on his end, and my own abuse on my end made things resentful. for the most part we worked through things the best we could, but always family would get involved, and our problems became everyone’s problems and the waters got muddy. we could no longer keep the issues within the household. well along the way, we did try for a child and sadly ended in an ectopic pregnancy. after we continued to try and successfully conceived in December 2025 not knowing until beginning of January 2026 but in the end of January 2026 shit just kept hitting the fan and it was just at the point when he kept threatening to kick me out, and tell me it was over with. i left because personally I felt like if we had any chance at all to work on things that it would be from separate households. he is now saying that he understands his wrong and wants to work on things but only if we continue doing it in the same household. I’m really trying to stand firm because at this point my mom and dad are over his controlling behavior.. and I’m trying to do good for myself and my son and possible future child.. but I believe in second chances and I’m trying to give that but at a spot I’m comfortable with. I know most will say just leave, your better off without him, and all the other cliche things. but I personally know him, and when it’s good it’s amazing, but when it’s bad it’s bad. but I feel like I want to at least giving it a fighting chance since he’s realized his wrongs and wants to go to counseling and work through things (but in the same household not separate) and I want to try for our future possible child and what our future might hold. but I’m torn, do I continue and try and give it one last chance even though I complete moved out and signed off the lease, do I continue to try and get a new place for my son and I? or do I move on and abort? we wanted this baby so badly and probably me more than him, but it BREAKS me to give up something we tried for after experiencing what we experience with the ectopic.. I know forsure he wants to work on things and continue the pregnancy. but wants me to abort if we do not work on things in the same household… I feel torn… im scared I can’t do it on my own, and I’m scared if I do my child grows up without a father, or I can’t take care of two children on my own. I just absolutely don’t know what to do or how to go about things.. I shouldn’t come to Reddit but I need unbiased opinions. I need some advice from strangers, or maybe I just need to write it out. I’m sorry this post is all over the place, this is my first time and I’m just trying to get it out the best I could. please if anyone has anything for me, it’s very much appreciated.