I think I just need this confirming by complete strangers on the internet.
So, I (44M) have a friend (42F) who has just come out of a two year relationship. I only found this out as we were messaging around Christmas time and her messages got progressively more flirty, so I asked if she was still in a relationship. She’s not, and said she and her ex broke up in the summer.
I’ve kinda always had a thing for her, and I know she likes me too, because it’s something we’ve discussed lately. We’ve even had a talk about relationship goals at the moment etc.
So, I wanna ask her out. And I told her so. But she said that at the moment she’s not sure because her ex wants to get back together, and that he knows where he messed up in their relationship and wants to try again. But… she doesn’t see any harm in us meeting up very soon and going for a drink, but it wouldn’t be a date.
So I’m thinking she’s gonna be stringing me along until she knows for certain whether to give it another go with her ex. Am I right? I feel like if I’m the back up plan, I’d rather she just picked him. I’d prefer an emphatic yes. What do you guys think?