So me (24F) and my boyfriend just broke up after about 6–7 months. And yeah, I know that’s not years, but he was the first person I genuinely loved. And I’ve been in a few relationships
The breakup was… calm. No drama, no cheating, no toxicity. He works every single day, long hours, and we were only seeing each other maybe twice a month. Eventually he said it wasn’t fair to me and ended things.
The day we broke up, we both agreed we needed to talk. And I thought it was going to be a conversation about how to fix things. My whole point was literally going to be like… maybe we could do more lowkey stuff? More home hangouts? Because every time we did meet, it had to be some fancy date, like we were trying to squeeze a whole relationship into one night. But before I could even suggest anything, he just said it’s the best to end it.
And at that point I didn’t suggest my idea. I just said okay. We hugged, like the longest, tightest hug ever and then we just left.
I respect him. A lot. He is putting his family before him. But I can’t lie… I’m hurt because it feels like he ended it without even trying. He didn’t ask if I’d be willing to adjust or work around it. He just decided what was best for me and walked away.
And now I’m stuck in this annoying place where I still love him, but I refuse to reach out first (call it ego, pride, self-respect… whatever).
I keep hearing that “men always come back.”
But does that still happen when the breakup was on good terms?
Or is this the kind of ending where they just… disappear respectfully forever?
Help 😭