I (23M) met girl (23F) through application. Things were going smoothly. She went for a "trip" to another city, and has stopped replying for over a week.
I was sure she ghosted me – turned out she was in a psych ward. It worried me a bit, but not too much. I could bear it. At least she is seeking help.
Few days later she was at psychiatrist and she had a melt down there. I could bear it – maybe she were going through some trauma.
Then she told me she had a su*cide attempt years ago – I could bear it. I had bad thoughts years ago as well, but I got out of them. I thought she did as well.
Now she stopped replying for 2 days again. I didn't know what's going on, and I was ready to break up because I felt she ignores me.
Turned out she is in a hospital after another attempt I had no clue about.
There is no way in hell I am going to keep dating her. I had my mental health broken once, and I am not going through this shit again. However, I don't know how to break up. The tough part is, she left a suit case with her stuff in my flat, and I need to return it to her.
I don't want to break up over SMS, but if I break up when she is out of hospital she would likely do something again. I also need to return her her stuff, and I don't think I can do so as long as she isn't at home. How would you handle this?