30yo female
Experiencing it to be hard to find people who want to be an active friend with you.
I’m having great connections with people but no one follows up. All of these people have similar views, age, and life situation. Our kids play together or they’re a parent. Talking with them is great. But no one will reach out without being prompted. Why is this?
I’ve invited people over and they seem to enjoy the time we share. They say how they’d like to do it again. But again, the follow through never comes.
I’m okay with making the first step. I’ll start an open ending conversation, compliment them, or check in on them. I never see this back though. It’s frustrating because I’d like a connection to matter. I turn inwards and ask myself if I’m doing something wrong.
I consider myself an active listener, compassionate, charismatic, and socially confident. I’ve asked myself hard questions in this situation and I come up with the same answer: you just haven’t met the right people yet. But where are they?