It's been a few days since my husband's funeral, and I'm honestly heartbroken. I'm 65F, and he was 65M. We met in college when we were both 18 and were together for 47 incredible years. He was the most wonderful man a brilliant husband, a great dad, and very involved with our girls. He loved nothing as much as his daughters. Everyone loved him. It was heartbreaking seeing his mom cry at his funeral; she's lost her husband and son in such a short time. Our oldest daughter is coping, but our youngest hasn't stopped crying.

It's so unfair. We had so much time left together, so much planned. I looked at our wedding album and remembered him crying when I walked down the aisle, and then I started to cry seeing him cry. I love him so much. He encouraged me to chase my dreams and supported me through everything. I had a wonderful marriage of love, equality, and support. I would do it all again; in every life, I would choose him.

Thank you for being a wonderful husband, thank you for being an amazing and good inspiration of a father for our girls, thank you for over 40 years of love and commitment. I'm going to miss you.


24 comments

  1. I’m so sorry for your loss. 47 years together sounds absolutely beautiful and he clearly was an amazing man and father. Your love for each other really shines through your words and I know he’d want you and your daughters to take care of each other during this incredibly difficult time

  2. This right here is why I made such major changes to my work life balance when I hit 40. Crazy how often I see guys hitting retirement age then dying. Post like these convince me I was right.

    So sorry for your loss. Just know he is waiting for you.

  3. My condolences. I lost my dad at about the same age and the pain eventually dulls but it never goes away. It has been 7 years and I still think about him everyday.

  4. This was my Dad in 2024 – same number of years married and lost my Mom. He’s ten years older than you and truly can’t imagine how others had gone so long losing spouses before. Your post reminds me it happens every day and I wish I could gather people like this for one giant hug.

  7. I am your same age and a few years behind you in marriage but it is a reality that I may outlive him. We spend our weekends together, text throughout the day and never fail to say I love you. It wouldn’t make me miss him any less but I would be at peace with him knowing how much he brought to my life and how much I would have missed out on.

    I am so sorry for your and your girls loss. They deserved more time with their dad (as did you).

  9. I’m so sorry. He sounds like a gem. You were lucky to have found each other. 🙏🏽

  10. I just stopped what I was doing and prayed for you and your daughters. May God bless and comfort yall. 

  11. So sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine. You were very lucky to experience so much love all these years; not everyone has that chance. Spend more time with your daughters and keep his memory alive.

  12. I have suffered tremendous loss. The main goal for yourself right now is to survive for your daughters. Sleep until you can’t sleep any more, cry your eyes out. Anything you can do to feel even slightly better, eat ice cream at noon, take a hot bath, call loved ones, watch a movie, join a grief group, pray often. You will miss him forever and always but will be together one day.

  13. I am so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful husband and father. You were all definitely lucky to have found each other and to have created such a wonderful life. I hope that you can find peace and a way forward. I’m sure he would want you to enjoy the rest of your life. Do the things that you didn’t get to do together. He’ll be with you in spirit. ❤️❤️

  15. I am so sorry for your loss I too lost my husband of 25 years 11 months ago. You may want to join r/widowers. This subreddit has helped me with my greif

  16. Sorry for you loss and condolences during this hard time.

    We are going on 45 year married and I hope we have more years to share.

  18. Reading your words hit me hard, wishing desperately for a dad who adored his girls like that and a partner for a lifetime of equal love and support. It’s so rare; I doubt I’ll ever find someone half as incredible. Thinking of you and sending love❤️

  21. I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you guys had a beautiful love story. 🙏

  24. What you shared was rare and beautiful. It makes sense that the pain feels unbearable right now. Grief is the price of a great love.
    Please be gentle with yourself and with your girls. He is still with you, in every quiet moment.

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