I had a first date earlier this week and just got that text saying "I had a great time getting to know you BUT I don't see this going anywhere". Am def a little disappointed… we seemed like we were on the same wavelength with a lot of things but it is what it is. Will move onto the next.
However, I'm honestly starting to get tired of dating. This is the 22nd girl I've ever gone out with. Out of 22 girls, nothing has materialized into anything more than a few dates. I'm dating with the hopes of finding my future wife so obviously am looking for something serious. I just feel like out of all the girl I've gone out with I've only viewed a few of them as having that potential and with the others having either felt A. I'm not interested B. I don't know but am open to going out again.
Just for shits and giggles here are my stats dating wise with these 22 girls.
12: ended after the first date
5: went on a second date but ended there
1: went on four dates with
1: a complicated situation that was ongoing for six months with one formal date and multiple hangouts/going to work events together etc. (by far the best connection I've had in my life)
1: still ongoing but had one date and now a second planned. I'm not sure where I see this going but am open minded.
I just feel tired man idk. I think dating apps have really ruined dating because there are so many more connections that end at first dates because of one party being disinterested. Each situation is different, some I haven't been interested in going out again, some I have been and they weren't, others agreed to a second date but then life got in the way and things fell through. I just feel like dating apps kind of force the date to happen inorganically, and most times it just doesn't work. Furthermore, I feel like there are so many options, that connections often end prematurely because of that mentality as to what else is out there. I think we've all been guilty of this at some point. I know I was early on with my time using dating apps. I've been trying to do more in person events because I feel like that's a more natural way of meeting someone but those haven't been any easier. Same ghosting, flakiness, and dishonesty you get from people you meet online. So yeh… dating is hard man.