41M here. From a developed Asian country. I always wanted to be a father but as I grew older, that dream became more and more distant. I have a super strong urge to be a father but no one seems to understand that when I share my worries. Instead, I am being told that being single is good and I am shamed and criticised by peers and friends for wanting to be a father. I worry that in my country, which has one one of the lowest birth rates in the world, I won't be able to get married. Societal shame on the part of my parents also prevented me from being able to consider the option of mail order brides (yes, that is how desperate I have become). I grieve over the lost opportunities of my youth. In the society around me, I have no one to share my worries with.