I realized this about myself at 28 is that I have no chance of possibly ever getting a girlfriend as I am so behind in life.

I should have noticed that something was wrong when I was a kid. I never had a girl show interest in me ever. I was always left out of those types of conversations. Till this day, i dont know what it is like for a woman to have a secret crush on you. When I graduated from high school and college, I never had a woman tell me that they found me attractive when I was younger. Heck I never had a male friend tell me that a woman was feeling me.

I never had a serendipitous situation where a woman finds you attractive randomly as you focused on yourself. I have done all of the focus on yourself advice and it has gotten me nowhere.

On top of that I am a boring person, I dont mean that I havent done anything. I mean that my conversational skills arent impressive. Im just an average joe. When I text women, apparently, I dont flirt enough. I come off too friendly lol. But this is a contradiction because I dont have female friends. Women do not like me as a friend either. At most, women texts me about work related things and thats it.

Making female friends is just as hard as dating.

Lastly, I think I am ugly. I have never been complimented on my looks at all my women. And no woman has ever shown interest in me. On online dating, I barely get matches. No women ever flirts with me at work either. Im just a steve as I call it. A steve is someone who should have found a girl but never really did sometimes for circumstances outside of their control.

Now I want to dispel some myths for those who comment.

  1. Im not desperate or needy around women. Not one person has ever said that about me.

  2. I leave my house lol. I have hobbies and I take care of my hygiene

  3. No, I am not some pathetic loser who lacks confidence and walk around with bad energy. I am described as upbeat and pleasant by many

  4. I do see women as people and I do just talk to them without an outcome. I have stayed single this way as some women have even wonder if I liked women.

But I just think I am defective to a degree. My personality is how I talk to my guy friends and there is no difference with women. What do I do?


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