Im 19 year old guy, had 4 girlfriends and here is my experiance with each one:
At age 15, the first one manipulated, gaslit, and made me feel like the problem. She started kissing her best friend (a girl) in front of me and started holding hands. I broke up with her and got over it in a week, but it was a good lesson to learn about self respect.
At age 17 The second one was a long distance relationship where she could never hang out and it fealt like i was dating an ai chat bot. I mean she was nice but after a while I coukdnt even say "i love you".
At age 18 a little over one and a half years after the last one, I got interested in one of my friends. She broke up with her last boyfriend for being entierly immature. She led me on for 2 months before I had to put the peices together and find out shes dating the most degenerate douche in our friend group. It wouldnt have pissed me off as much if she didnt lie to my face multiple times that they werent dating. Now i dont like to put myself on a pedestil but ive shown nothing but loyalty and kindness to her. Then she turned around and dated someone with a reputation for lying and being a dick.
I dont understand at all. Are these mf stupid?
Then the fourth one was the best, but she had a gaurd up and it never came down. Not. A. Bit. I hung out with her for 6 months. I tried to be good enough for 6 months. Nope. 6 months doesnt seem like a long time, but it sure does feel like it when she still treats you like a stranger.
So ive made the decisions to never date again. All the good ones are attracted to the worst people for whatever reason. It jsut sucks being a nice person ig.
But i just dont understand why. Why are people like this?