I (F27) have been seeing this guy (M27) for almost a month now. Quick background we met on tinder. He made plans with me almost instantly. We met at his house and had dinner at a restaurant. It ended in me staying the night, makeout sesh and dry šŖ lol and ever since we see each other once a week. I should disclose we had sex the 2nd meet also. Anyways I canceled a date with him because of the freeze but turns out I was able to go see him still the next day because the roads were fine. I was stuck at his house for the weekend and we genuinely had a lot of fun together laughing, making jokes, cooking, watching movies and playing video games.
Then just last night he was sleeping and i kissed him on the cheek and left to go smoke and came back and he was awake. Mind you he doesnāt at all care about the smoking I even changed clothes, sprayed perfume and brushed my teeth bc i was feeling insecure about the smell. Anyways I tried cuddling up with him but he was being so distant. I even asked if he was okay and he responded with āā¦yeah iām fine Idk what iām really feeling rn I canāt explain itā it was such an odd response. He took his phone to the bathroom and came back shortly after and laid down and reassured me it wasnāt me it was him. I asked if needed some space physically because hes like leaning away from me so iām out of distance with throwing my leg over him. He tells me he doesnāt know what that means and i clarified saying ālike rn in bed physically do u want me to give u ur spaceā he reassures me thats not it and pulls me in close but not too much like he usually would. A switched flipped definitely.
Then we woke up this morning. He said good morning gave me a kiss and sent me a link to a date idea we have planned for the weekend and told me he was going to make us breakfast and after he has a lot of errands to do today. Which is fair weāve been with each other all weekend. After eating I packed up my stuff and he came in gave a really nice long hug and kissed me on the forehead and told me until next weekend. When he walked me out to my car to put up my stuff i then used that time to ask him when he downloaded tinder what was he looking for. He said thats a good question then proceeded to basically say something casual. I asked him where does he think were leading to. He said he met me and has been spending a lot of time w me and enjoying it and is going with the flow and if it leads to a relationship he would like to pursue that with me. I asked if he was seeing other ppl and he admitted to it and reassured me that he spends a lot of his time with me tho and when he texts back late sometimes its bc he genuinely is busy with work but that iām on the top of his list way above the others hes seeing and that me and him are good and we have a good thing going and theres no issues. Ngl it was gut punch hearing that but throughout this whole convo i kept my composure and remained receptive and accepting of his honesty. He gave me a kiss and told me to txt him when i get home safe and that was that.
Iāve never been in this situation before. I like him but hes seeing other ppl. I deleted my dating apps and turned down advances because I know who I want to spend my time with. We had always talked about reciprocation is something we stand by and after hearing that all I wanna do is open my options back up and give him space. Not to punish him but more of to protect myself from expecting too much. Should I continue this connection and see where it goes or have more self respect. Truly idk like Iāve said I never have been in this situation before and things have been really good up until that weird energy shift last night and his disappointing response this morning