Sorry for the long ass post but I need to give context lol
Me (26F) and my bf (25M) met on tinder around June last year became official on December 10th.
For a little background, we spent almost two months talking after we first matched. A little before that, he confessed his ex reached out to him to let him know she found of she was pregnant and was going to have a baby (according to bf, Doctors had told her she was infertile but she was not). Then he went MIA for almost month and reached to me again, he apologized and I kept it cool.
We started talking again and he said he was still interested in me. I brought up the fact I wasn't really comfortable with him having a baby mom and he said not to worry since his ex and him weren't getting back together, so I was open to continue talking. He mentioned his ex and him didn't end up things in good terms and that the girl wasnt even talking to him about the baby or even letting him see her.
(He's a really sweet and nice guy and he said his ex wasn't really as affectionate and they started arguing a lot and that's why they ended up things so I was like “oh well who am I to blame”.)
We talked for another 3 months and started having dates at that point, after clearing up the baby matter again and making sure that wouldn't affect our relationship, we decided to become official on December.
He had been living with his older brother the whole time. His brother's wife recently had a miscarriage and they seemed to get every emotional and irritated about that (I know that's true because I was visiting when the lady had to run to the hospital one night). The thing is, his brother and him got into an argument and he asked him to leave ASAP and he had nowhere to go. I live with my family and we had no rooms available so having him come cover wasn't an option.
My bf had two options, find somewhere else to stay within a week OR go to his best friend's in Ohio (we're in Texas). I'm not a fan of long distance relationships so I decided to help him find a place so he could stay here.
From the moment my bf's brother told him to leave, he started becoming less responsive and distant. Which I kinda understood, having to move all of a sudden seems super stressful. I brought it up and he said he was sorry and was gonna make it up for me eventually.
Fast forward to today, I was able to find him a new place to stay close to where I live. He recently lost his job and didn't have much money saved bc he was giving most of it to his brother for rent etc. So I decided to help with with the first month of rent at the new place which is a little under $600.
I'm making this post bc even though Ive been so supportive this whole time, he's still being less responsive of our texts and feel like he's becoming distant, despite of me bringing it up a few weeks ago.
He's at the new place all day and currently has no job/car. So I'm wondering WTH could he be doing all day besides taking naps/playing games that he takes more than 8+ hrs to answer to my texts sometimes? Mind you I'm also trying to help him find a new car, smh.
That makes me think he's either not interested in me anymore and doesn't know how to tell me OR he's talking to other ppl on tinder/his baby mom.
Yesterday we were talking normal around 11 am and he didn't answer me back until 9pm and that's why bc I called him to see if he was alive?? When I asked what he did all day he just started to stutter.
All this is strongly making me consider ending things bc I can't deal with it much longer, in my head I gave him a deadline of getting his shit together until March 20th. AIO?