I’m 24F and met a guy online who said he was 36. After dating for 3 months, I found out he’s actually 46. I was really upset, and he apologized, saying he lied because he was afraid I wouldn’t give him a chance due to the age gap. He said he never planned on dating someone this much younger, that he recently got divorced, and that he’s only dated women around his age before.
What makes this harder is that aside from the lie, he’s treated me really well. He makes me feel comfortable, safe, and cared for, and he genuinely seems mature in a way I haven’t experienced before. Honestly, if I didn’t know his age, I would’ve believed he was 36 — he looks and acts younger.
I don’t struggle with dating in general, and I know I have other options, but I’ve never connected with someone like this. At the same time, the fact that he lied about something so big feels like a red flag, and we both know the age gap complicates things.
What would you do?