Last year one of my sister’s close friends broke up with her bf. We always had good chemistry and one thing led to another. We ended up kissing and making out multiple times. We got a little touchy but didn’t have sex. We basically had a situationship thing going for about 10 months to a year. She lives in a different city so we managed to keep in touch through FaceTime and messages. We would call in private. Additionally, we’d sneak a few solo hang outs when she was in town in addition to hanging out in groups with my sister and friends. Things were hella rocky and everything was done in secret. She believed she violated girl code and was adamant not to tell my sister bec she doesn’t wanna ruin their friendship. Yet things were dragging on where we’re not official but she kept craving the attention. I liked her so much and was feeding into it like an idiot. Nonetheless, I respected her wish and kept it a secret.
Time goes on and we get into a bunch of issues, mainly because of her and how she was handling everything. Looking back at it, she was very toxic. My sister always told me that she was toxic to her ex but I never believed it. Additionally, we have different religions, it matters a lot to her(I didn’t care about it) Additionally she wasn’t over her ex because it was a very long relationship. With how complicated things were getting and how much it was starting to hurt me, we started slowly parting ways. We agreed to stay friends so we don’t make it weird in friends gathering and bec we supposedly cared for each other(not really sure if she cared at all anymore, everything she ever said feels like a lie now)
Anyways, we haven’t been really talking for a few months now. We occasionally check in as friends but I found out a few days ago that she removed me on social media. Wheb I asked, she claimed she’s making it a girls only account but I have a feeling she went back with her ex and trying to hide things because she told me she’d never tell him about us. Now, I’m contemplating if I should come clean with my sister. My relationship with her friend made me feel used. So I technically have no reason to honor the secret and keep hiding. Coming clean could take some of it off my mind. However, Idk at this point if this will be good for my sister as I’m not sure how she’ll react. It would answer a lot of her suspicions and questions but at the same time it might make her feel betrayed as I’m not too close to her.
P.S. this is a sensitive topic for me and I would appreciate kind advice. i sometimes wish none of this happened but what’s done is done already. I’m just thinking of my next move. Idk if coming clean would help me get closure or if I’m subconsciously trying to get back at her. I have no intention of hurting anyone but it seems whatever decision I make, someone will get hurt.