My husband absolutely can never preform no matter what, meds dont work mental health doesnt work. Im starting to feel like hes just not into me hes never had this issue with any of his exes and I am losing self esteem by the minute.
I partially think maybe its because his ex was trans I dont have the parts he wants. Or that ive gained too much for him to still want me. Or that im not doing enough. I dress uo for him, I shave for him, I do activities to him. I keep trying and trying but no matter what im just not enough.
I'm breaking down after every attempt because I get close and he just gives up. He has no self esteem during this and just starts crying and shutting down, which kills me because I cant imagine what it feels like for him. But at the same time what about me? I feel too awkward when im the only one getting off because he cant. Weve tried multiple doctors no meds have worked. We tried sex therapy nothing fixes it. Ive tried kinks hes always wanted and its still not enough. He doesnt watch porn. I just I don't know what to do. I am losing my mind. We are both only 26 for the record.