Hi all,
I (32f) have been married to my husband for 7 years.
Can anyone shed some light on why he is going soft almost every time we attempt to have sex lately? (He’s 32m)
He has a history of watching porn and regularly masturbating. We had a big discussion a couple months back on how he should stop as it’s affecting our sex life and he was choosing it over being intimate with me.
He says to me he hasn’t watched it since but the last 5 or 6 times we’ve had sex it’s felt very… different… almost like he’s doing it because he thinks that’s all I want (which is not true). It feels as though he’s not really into it or passionate about it.
While he was rubbing me up I came to return the favour and he was completely soft. Unaroused. I’m starting to think he’s maybe not physically attracted?
I tried to talk to him about it and asked if anything is on his mind, he says he just gets tired at night but I don’t believe that to be the whole truth. Usually most men would find this to be a stress reliever etc. while I understand it’s normal to be tired here and there, it’s becoming increasingly obvious that it’s happening every time even when I know he hasn’t had a big day.
Do you think there’s no physical attraction anymore?