My husband and I have had some relationship problems for a while. We get along most of the time but his temper has been an issue and I frequently feel lonely and unappreciated. I put in a *big* effort to try and cheer him up. I tell jokes, I suggest movies to watch that I know he likes, I do little things like arrange his clothes so they dont have ugly/uncomfortable wrinkles in them I… idk… I *try*.
This past week has been especially rough. It's 30-40° most days (we're in Australia) and my husband works in a warehouse without air conditioning. He's stressed out by me and the kids (we have four) and hasn't slept well. The one thing that used to guarantee my husband was able to sleep was sex. We do it at least once a week. But lately even that doesn't seem to help much. Furthermore, every time we have sex or do anything sexual, *I* struggle to sleep.
Last night, when I finished listening to my podcast, I rolled over and gave him a hug. He then grabbed my hand and put it on his penis. I tried to take my hand away but he grabbed it firmly and put it back. This happened a couple more times before he started to make me jerk him off. I wasn't into it at all and I was also tired because it was almost 1am and I had been feeding the baby. But I figured it'd be better to go with it than deal with a tired, frustrated, husband in the morning. So I kept trying to jerk him off but… look, I was really, really tired. I just didn't have the strength to keep going. So I kept asking him to help me. I finished him off eventually and, I dunno, I guess I expected to get a hug or a thank you or something. Instead I got nothing. When we woke up today, he wasn't any nicer or any happier. He complained that he still didn't have a good night's sleep. And… that's that.
I feel… not okay. I feel like I've been forced to do something sexual which I didn't want to do and then there wasn't any pay-off.
Idk if I'm asking for advice or what. But if someone had some kind words or something I'd appreciate it.