Basically me and bf have been seeing a couple therapist because of our sex issues. They had us do an exercise of what we want in our current relationship. Sex often and passion was a big one. I asked why aren’t you sexually attracted to me? Is it how I feel etc and what part?
This has been an ongoing issue but it seems he never wanted to say it and he finally did. He said that it’s because of how my butt looks and how it’s shaped. And it affects how he views sex with me. but then states he’s been finding me more attractive because I lost weight and I’ve been looking more fit (I’ve been going to the gym for about a year but in and off but just now really taking it seriously) And due to my butt he doesn’t have the feeling of eating ur partner up etc. and having fear for the future
Then says we lack chemistry but I feel it’s all physically related based off how he talks about this issue. And when he talks contradicts himself he is the one who starts everything up.
We make 2 years in August, I don’t understand why would he start a relationship with me and I don’t know what I should do. I’ve been going to the gym because I have the insecurities about myself but that’s for ME I want to look nice in dresses etc. I know i dont have a nice shape butt which is why I started working out seriously. I love him but Idk how or if we can move past this.
The couple therapist suggested we talk and that he sees an individual therapist for this because it seems like he has something internal going on that he’s hyper fixated on that.
Please be semi nice in the comments I’ve been tore up about this all day
TL;DR my bf main issue with sex is my butt shape isn’t appealing to him? What should I do or what can we do?