I am so deeply in love with my wife but life has thrown many hurdles our way causing us to drift apart at least in terms of the romance/intimacy area of our relationship. I have a life long struggle with confidence and trusting my own feelings, and only VERY recently have come to some realization on the causes which gives me hope that there is something I can work on in that area.
My insecurities have led to me not being able to show up for my wife in the ways she needs. I find myself being so worried about doing the "correct" thing that I often end up doing nothing, or find myself asking for permission before doing something for her. I also am SO sensitive to criticism, so when she voices concerns to me I basically crumble leaving both of us in a state of feeling like we need to walk on eggshells. I know, I have a lot to work on. Adding to this I have been having health struggles I am trying to figure out causing me to be exhausted all the time and have trouble with memory and decision making. There is hope for a fix on this assuming me and my doctors are on the right track about what is going on.
We also have created a beautiful family and parent together really well. We get along great, we dont really fight, and our values align so well. There is so much I love about our marriage and so much worth fighting for and she still gives me butterflies even after years of marriage. I am okay with us putting the romance and intimacy on the back burner while we work through things, I honestly dont have the energy for the intimacy these days anyways. But I would like to one day revisit that part of my relationship, but my fear is that she no longer sees me that way.
Either way, I need to work on my issues, I know this. I am going to continue with therapy, I have increased to once a week. But I am curious if other people have had experiences of something similar and were able to come out the other side rekindling the romance. My family history is FULL of divorce and I haven't seen many examples of successfully recovering from this kind of struggle.
I also want to know tips to work on my self confidence while I am not able to get validation from my partner and while I keep actively doing things wrong because my brain isn't functioning properly.
Any advice is appreciated