My (21f) boyfriend (31m) had told me that he finds most (not all) vaginas to look weird to him. I had told him I find every part of him attractive and beautiful. As a bisexual woman I had never found someone who I liked to have weird genitals. In past relationships (and my current one) I had found my partners genitalia beautiful and I’m grateful that they are willing to give that vulnerable part of themselves to me.
My Bf told me when we first started dating that he finds most vaginas weird (although he said some are better looking). I asked him what he thought of mine, he said mine is also weird. I don’t let him eat me out and try to hide it as much as I can. I have always struggled allowing myself to receive but knowing that my partner finds that part of myself unattractive makes it impossible for me.
Randomly tonight we discussed it and he told me he still feels the same way. I told him that’s why I don’t let him give me oral or things along that line. He told me that I’m being over sensitive and “it’s not that deep” “you’re making it out be more serious than it is”. He said I’m holding onto things from earlier in the relationship to try and make him out to be the bad guy. However he still feels the same way he did then currently. I know I can’t change his opinion but it can still make me sad to know that how I view him is not reciprocated.
That being said I have been very hormonal and sick this past week and I have caused a number of very dumb arguments because of my moodiness. Just over dumb stuff but I apologize quickly and I know I should be able to control my mood a lil better when I’m hormonal. I in general am a very sensitive person too so I know I may be over sensitive about this and I don’t know if I’m being dramatic.
I’m just curious to hear other peoples opinions and advice on this? I don’t know if this a common way to think or not. Sorry if some of this doesn’t make sense. I’m very tired and it’s late
Additional info: I just feel the need to add, he in general is a great boyfriend and the best partner I have ever had. We have been together about a year. Other than small things like this he makes me so happy and I’m so in love with him. He does have a tendency to get defensive but if I back off he will often revisit things and make improvements in the future. Also I am aware of our age gap but I feel like for this conversation it’s not relevant. I typically date guys older than me, I just prefer people who are established in life which are typically older.